1. Did he turn up for the date?

Well, this is a pretty good sign that he is not worth all of the effort that you made in getting ready for the date. However, he might have a good excuse, but he needs to have got in touch with you to let you know. If he doesn't turn up for the date, and hasn't got in touch with you with an apology and a very good reason why he stood you up, then he should definitely go in the loser category. Just count yourself lucky that you didn't have to endure a date with him before you found out, and move on. That old cliché really does count for something here, "There's plenty more fish in the sea"!

2. Was he early?

Ok, so he did turn up for the date, so that counts for something, or does it? Well, not quite. If he was early then he obviously was looking forward to the date. More than that though, he was considerate enough not to leave you waiting alone. You know how it feels if you are on your own, waiting for someone to turn up. If your date turns up late then he is not going to be scoring any points. You do need to be fair, and not dismiss him as a loser immediately, see what he has to say. If he doesn't apologize for being late, then it may be that he is just plain inconsiderate. In which case, he is getting closer to earning loser status.

3. How was his personal hygiene?

This is a pretty nasty one, especially if the standard of his hygiene isn't very good! Let's face it, though, if he has bad breath, and body odor, then it is immediate Loserville for him. There is absolutely no excuse, now days, for a man not to be clean and fresh-smelling. He should certainly be well-groomed on a first date. After all, he is meant to be trying to impress you.

4. What was he wearing?

Now a big part of this might be related to your own personal opinion. But, you can tell a lot about a guy by how he is dressed. Not everyone can afford the latest Gucci suit, or fashion, but he needs to have made an effort, and at least be color coordinated. If he seems to have put on the first things he can find, then he is definitely leaning more towards loser status.

5. Did he look after you?

If a guy is attentive, and goes out of his way to see that you are happy, then he is certainly not a loser. If he arrived before you, which is ideal, then he should at least ask what you would like to drink, if you are in a bar or restaurant, let you order first, and so on. This can be taken as far as pulling out your chair for you, taking your coat, opening doors for you, etc. Don't expect every guy to have old-fashioned manners, but they should be courteous. A loser will leave you to fend for yourself, while he makes sure that he has everything that he needs.

6. Did he talk about himself all the time?

Now this has got to be one of the biggest indicators of a guy being a loser that there is! Any conversation should be a two-way process. He should give you chance to talk about yourself, and ask questions. If all he does all evening is tell you how wonderful he is, according to him, then he should be dropped in the loser bin immediately.

7. Was he rude?

There are a number of indicators that a guy is being rude, and it all depends on how tolerant you are, but some things just set the loser detector alarm bells ringing. One of these is when he is constantly interrupting you when you are talking. Another is making, or taking, a phone call on his cell phone, without apologizing. Did he keep ignoring you, and flirt with the waitress? You know plenty more I am sure.

8. Did he seem preoccupied?

If a guy spends more time looking at his watch, or sports bar TV screen, than he does at you, then it is Loserville for him. I don't mean the odd glance away from you, but if he seems to want to be elsewhere, then you'd be well-advised to let him have his wish!

9. Did he offer to pay?

Ok, so not every guy has the cash to pay for a fancy meal for two, but he should at least pay half! If he lets you pay for both of you, then you can be sure that he is a loser. Money isn't something that you really want to discuss on a first date, but he should have asked if you'd mind ‘going Dutch' when he made the date with you in the first place. Waiting until the check comes, and then announcing that he cannot cover it is not a good sign.

10. Did he make sure you could get home safely?

So, you've survived the first date, and maybe you are not yet decided whether the guy is a loser, or not. The final test is whether he seems to be trying to get away as fast as possible, or if he makes sure that you get home safely. It doesn't matter if he drops you off himself, or stays until your taxi arrives.