For those who have not gotten married or had a committed relationship for several years, or were engaged; dating becomes extremely difficult. They've been dating people for a short time, going on blind dates; meeting other singles at clubs, bars and restaurants;

however never being able to find the one who is right for them.

Some people asked the question, of whether or not these single people are just too picky or their standards are too high. I have to say, that this is not always the case for everyone.

I think once you reach a certain point in your life, you become more aware of your surrounding and the kind of people you want to be with. When you do not find what you want, or the people you meet are not on the same page you are not going to settle just for the sake of having a relationship or dating someone.

There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want, you are the one who is going to live and share the life with this person; so why would you be getting any less then you deserve?

For the most part, the people in there thirties already have their carriers set; the characters and personalities are already shaped and embraced. The experienced received in their previous relationships, pretty much set their mind about what they will accept from the partner, and what they will not put up with at all.

With that said, the thirty some singles go out there expecting a "picture perfect" from their dates, and in a lot of cases find the complete opposite.

Another thing is that for women who really strive to get in to serious relationship; when they meet someone new, they anticipate to find an ‘instant" husband on their first date. Therefore they instantly get disappointed about the person they meet automatically dismissing them as "no good". The problem is that, when someone goes on the date, considering the amount of unsuccessful dates they had recently,

The behavior may not necessarily be all positive and sincere.

Over all attitude may be friendly and nice, however you will hold back and keep you emotions inside in order to avoid disappointments.

So, when you do meet someone, consider these facts, that men or a woman, just like you, had been going on endless dates, and you for them can just be another baffled attempt to meet the right person.

For these singles I would suggest to stay positive no matter how many disappointments and obstacles they've had! By staying positive you will be able to see the things you've learned to ignore about other people (sometimes we focus too much on the negative, versus value the positive).

Do not over analyze your date; and do not automatically label them as something they may not be.

Positive attitude will make you look more attractive and different!

I do not believe the theory where people suggest that if you were never married and are certain age, it means that there is something wrong with you.

I know of many quality people, who are just not finding the right match; and these men and women are out there waiting for you!

So, even if it takes a long time, it doesn't mean you lost your chance, or it will not happened for you. It will happen when it meant to be.

Love and satisfying relationship can come to you at any age!

Like an old saying goes: "there is someone for everyone".

Then another types of singles after thirty, who had been married or came out of a long engagement; and trying to date all over again.

It may be even more of a challenging for them to start dating all over again!

They feel the same amount of pressure as the ones, who have not been there yet, but for these men and women the standards, the personality traits they are looking for and the whole perspective on the relationship may be different.

Not to say that, these people will settle or accept less from their partners, but they are more aware of "real" issues the couples have.

They recognize the positive capacity of the person over meaningless and minor shortcomings that everyone has. The focus is on the replacing things they were missing in their past relationship, which they know now they can not function with out; and also the flexibility to accept and adapt their partners burdens and afflictions.

So, not from the statistics but from my own circle of people I know, I see more new and solid relationships for the ones who have marriage under their belt, versus then the ones who never got close to it.

I am not suggesting who has a better chance of finding their life partners in this matter; I am separating the two by their level of endurance!

In both equations, men and women have to feel confident and accepting towards the dating after thirties! It is not too late!