1. Self talk

This must be done daily if you want to achieve success. Self-talk is literally talking to yourself or more accurately your conscious mind talking to your subconscious (this is where your thoughts about the way you look are stored).

I want you to take your list of negative thoughts and make them positive. For example, if you've said, "I don't think I'm very attractive" change this to "I'm very attractive". Some of the sentences below may also help you build a catalogue of positive phrases that you can repeat to yourself everyday:

I like myself
I love myself
I appreciate who I am and so will others
I'm radiating with beauty
I love my body and the way I look totally
I'm confident within myself
Beauty comes from the inside out

You should aim to say your personal positive sentences out loud at least 10 times a day until you start really believing it. Yes, people might think you're mad, but you'd be truly mad to miss this opportunity, because to be as attractive as possible, you have to first convince yourself that you are.

2. What's your agenda?

Before going on your date you should decide what you want out of the experience. Are you looking for a fling, a boyfriend/girlfriend or a future fiancée? Decide what perception you want the other person to have of you and what one thing you want them to remember about you.

3. Behave like an attractive person inside

Change the way you think about attractiveness. Don't see it as how someone looks on the outside, it's not about weight, hair, complexion it goes far deeper. Don't be afraid to give people compliments and also accept compliments yourself confidently and graciously.

4. Draw on good role models

Having good role models throughout your life is important and this doesn't mean copying people, but instead seeing particular qualities that they have which you'd also like to take on board and add to yourself.

5. Dress for success

Once you know you're attractive on the inside then you can show it on the outside with greater confidence. Those oversized velour jogging bottoms may be comfy but they probably don't make you feel particularly special - so send them to the charity shop. You should now be feeling good about yourself so it's time to dress for success.

Don't forget to make sure you are spending enough time on yourself. Go to the hairdressers, go for massages, go to the gym, eat the right food, make sure you spend at least 6 hours a week on yourself. Sounds simple but most of us just don't do it.

6. Don't make excuses for yourself

Be confident in your conversation by not putting yourself down. Don't use phrases which belittle you such as "I've never been any good at…" I've always been so clumsy at...". You can say these phrases without thinking, but they're the worse kind as within a second of saying them you have undone all your good work by telling yourself and others that you don't really rate yourself. A recent survey has shown that the biggest turn off on a date is when someone talks about their imperfections. It's not interesting or cute - it's just boring.

7. Practise makes perfect

It's a fact that confidence is perceived as being one of the most attractive traits in an individual. So, give yourself a booster by flirting with someone in a bar or go out for dinner on your own and make eye contact with people, or do something that you would never normally dream of doing.

8. Don't give the game away

People who tell their whole life story in one go quickly lose all their mystery and interest. So don't give the whole game away, as it makes you less attractive. This includes the obvious of not talking about past relationships. Don't feel as if you need to be doing all the talking. You are more powerful as a listener rather than babbling on to fill space.

9. Rely on yourself

People who have a high sense of self-reliance are more attractive as they give the perception of being in control. A high self reliance also means you have great self-confidence, which makes you very attractive to others as they wont feel as if you need constant looking after and affirmations.

You will need to work at all these points continuously until you start feeling 100% happy about yourself.

"Dos" to remember forever

These should be written on something that you carry around with you so you can always remind yourself of them…

Do see all men/women as potentials
Do think you are attractive otherwise no-one else will
Do be happy with your own company
Do remember that being attractive is not something you are born with but something you can develop
Do remember not to chase people. It looks desperate and if you want someone too much then they'll not want you. Give people a chance to do a bit of chasing; after all it's all part of the fun.

I hope you've taken all the advice on board and act on it. Have fun on your dates and even if your aim hasn't been met see it as a positive experience and one that you can learn something from. Even if you haven't met the love of your life maybe you've made a new friend? Afterall, he or she is bound to have other friends they can introduce you too!