Before the meal begins, show the children that the plate is centered in front of them knives and spoons are set to the right, and forks and napkins are on the left. The teacup and saucer will be on the right, and bread plate to the left. After the children are seated, have an adult show them how to gently place the napkin in their lap. Remind your small guests to sit up straight in the chair and avoid placing elbows on the table.

Social graces include knowing how to hold a tea cup properly, how to introduce oneself to other children at the table, and saying "please", "excuse me", and "thank-you". This is the perfect time to remind them to avoid slurping, smacking, gobbling, and talking with a mouthful of food. They can also have a fun time learning how to pass food around the table, how to take just one scone, and how to graciously refuse a food they do not like without a negative commentary.

Reinforce good table manners with praise and complements, and avoid reprimanding poor manners. Gentle reminders of appropriate behavior at the table will turn children into proper ladies and gentlemen. Proper etiquette extends beyond table manners. Older children can be taught to serve appetizers, greet guests, and graciously take coats. Finally, children should learn to always thank the hostess for the wonderful meal, citing specific dishes they especially loved. At the end of the party, consider presenting each child with an "Etiquette Course Completion Award" that they can proudly take home as a keepsake of this special day.

Many tea rooms now offer tea-time packages geared toward children. This may include someone on staff that will give lessons in the art of good manners and etiquette. Good manners do play an important role in our society, now, more than ever. Knowing the rules of proper etiquette and good manners are an important key to social success, so take time to teach manners and remember that it can be fun for the children and for you.