Tip 2 - Appreciate what you want to see more of - Verbally, out loud, appreciate something about your partner each day.

Tip 3 - Another listening tip - Don't just sit there waiting for the words to stop coming out of the mouth of your partner, really listen to what is being said.

Tip 4 - Good manners - It does not matter how long you have been together, good manners are still important. Saying "excuse me" when you need to get by someone is still much better than "move."

Tip 5 - Anticipation - is much more than an old song by Carly Simon that is now used in a ketchup commercial. Being able to anticipate something together, to have something to look forward to, draws couples closer together.

Tip 6 - Get naked - So many couples with whom I coach tell me the same sad story. Sex is just not the same and/or no longer exists. Many couples have no idea how to rekindle the spark. Here is the simple advice I often give - get naked under the covers and just hold each other. Put aside all the fears and resentments and expectations and just hold each other.

Tip 7 - Watch your language - words have meaning. Be careful and mindful of how you use your words with your love. The old saying "sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me" is a big fat lie.