Identifying the obstacles or problems in your relationship before it get worse can help you to revive your love life and restart the fire.

Below are some of the most common obstacles and problems that can affect the relationship.

1. Irritable Habits

This usually happen when the couple started to live together, or it could be in the case of a newly married couple. After living together for some times, one of the partners may discover some ‘bad' habits and find it intolerable. Though it may not difficult to change, it really takes a willing hearts and soul to commit. Instead he/she should view it as a personal challenge and progress. On the other hand, the partner who initiated the change should be tactful and supportive in requesting for the change. Though this may be a small issue, it could lead to some unhappiness and quarrel and will affects the relationship.

2. Take things for granted

The relationship may come to a point in life that the couple takes each other for granted. They no longer appreciate each other's effort and deem it as a ‘must' that his/her partner have to do it for them. In order to nurture your love life, you need to show appreciation to your partner. Simple words like "Thank you" works like magic. By doing it, it motivates and inspire your partner to want to please you more. Appreciation is among the top ten needs for most people.

3. Lack of communication

No relationship can survive without communicating with each other. When you stop talking to each other, you will feel distant and slowly an invisible wall will come between both of you, slowly separating you. To prevent this from happening, you need to communicate with each other every day. When you are communicating, you feel connected and a rapport is build.

Communication is the most important aspect of your love life. Communication can be in the form of verbal or non verbal. For instance, maintaining eye contact, nodding, padding or hugging. You can also send a greeting email or send a short message via hand phone to keep in touch with your partner while you are away for work. Be open to you to your partner and listen.

4. Criticisms

Criticisms can be very insulting and humiliating. It could hurt the partner emotionally especially if he/she has a low self esteem. NEVER ever use criticisms in your relationship. Choose the words you speak with great care as words hastily offered are not easily retrieved. When the relationship is strained, it can sink very quickly. Give respect to your love one.

5. Career minded

People nowadays place great importance on materialism, thus many have sacrifices their marriage or family for the sake of career. While having a stable job and income is vital, one should not neglect his/her marriage or family. Learn to manage your time and set priority. Relationship must always come first, then your career.

6. Dishonesty

Besides infidelity, it also includes not disclosing one's feelings. If you do not express your feeling and keep everything to yourself, your partner will never know how you feel. By bottling all the unhappiness to yourself, it can also lead to chronic diseases. You have to learn to trust yourself and your partner. A good foundation in a healthy love relationship is built on trust and trust must be earned.

Remember, a relationship that needs repair demands having more time and attention for each other. Hence give enough time and attention to your partner to living harmoniously.