Sexual polarity is not required for love but it is necessary for sexual attraction in a relationship. A man may have a feminine core and a female may have a masculine core, or they could both be more balanced in their masculine and feminine aspects, but as long as one partner is willing to play the masculine polarity while the other plays the feminine polarity, they can enjoy sexual interaction with each other in a satisfying manner.

The feminine is pure, boundless and infinite energy moving freely without any particular direction. It is directionless but immense, ever changing, beautiful and destructive. The feminine is the force of life and source of inspiration. The feminine moves in all directions, the masculine moves in one direction. The feminine needs the masculine to give it direction, focus and purpose. The masculine needs the energy of the feminine to give it drive and passion. The masculine and the feminine need each other. The masculine directs while the feminine projects. This is the relationship of yin and yang.

The feminine looks to the masculine for direction. A woman does not want a man to look to her for direction but would rather he follow his own direction. It is better for a man to act when he wants to and not need a woman to give him permission to do as he please. A woman would rather a man acts when he feels like it instead of when she feels like it, and for him to be able to change her feelings at will. That is why a woman prefers a man to take the initiative in everything. She wants him to keep leading every and advancing every step of the way instead of waiting without knowing what to do next.

The role of the masculine is to lead and the role of the feminine is to follow. When the masculine does not lead, the feminine will lead. The feminine will take charge in areas where the masculine does not take charge. The feminine may not like it but she will do so because someone has to do it. According to the law of conservation, whatever the masculine is meant to perform but doesn't, the feminine will take over. It is the masculine that gives direction to the feminine. When a man does not play his role as a man for his woman, she will become her own man.

One of the deepest feminine desires is to be able to relax and surrender, knowing that the masculine is taking care of everything. She can enjoy her man taking responsibility for the direction so she can be what the feminine is: pure energy in motion. One of the most valuable gifts of the masculine is his ability to see all options and make a decision based on the view of all potential outcomes. The masculine should help the feminine make decisions with his masculine clarity and decisiveness by giving her his perspective and telling her his choices.

Truth for the feminine changes from moment to moment. That is not because she is lying but because her truth depends on her feeling in the moment. A woman with a feminine essence is all over the place emotionally. Just because a woman says she doesn't want to do something doesn't mean she really doesn't want to do it. It is how she feels in the moment. But when a man can do something to change her feelings, she may want to do it the next moment. She is probably waiting for you to change her feelings so that she would want to do what you are suggesting.

One of the greatest gifts the masculine can give the feminine is his capacity to open her heart when it is closed, by changing her feelings at will. The feminine heart and body are free to be moved by love, and by life itself. Since memory is tied to emotion and the emotion of the feminine is tied to the present moment, past and future is irrelevant to a woman. A man's mistake is as easily forgotten as his successes. He can always create love and happiness with her in the present moment. Do whatever it takes to crack the shell of her closure, get your love inside that crack and touch her heart.

Truth for the masculine is fixed and constant. Once a man knows what he wants, his choices tends to remain the same throughout time. A man is his word. A man has to know what he wants and be sure of his decision. The feminine is attracted to the masculine whose truth is so strong that she cannot succeed in shaking or shifting him away from it no matter what she does, and therefore she can trust and yield to him. The feminine is always testing the masculine to see if he will always act from his deepest truth, and when he proves to be such a person, she has no choice but to surrender herself to his direction. A woman desires a man who knows what he is doing.

The dark masculine desire is the desire to take a woman savagely, lovingly and with no inhibitions whatsoever. The pleasure is in releasing her from all conventional restraints of her psyche, so she has no choice but to surrender in love. The dark feminine desire, to be forced to surrender, is as strong as the dark masculine desire to penetrate and break through a woman's resistance. Most men have fantasized about forcing a woman to have sex against her will and most women have fantasized about being forced to have sex against their will. The difference between rape and ravishment is love. Forcing the feminine to surrender into love is the basis of ravishment. These dark masculine and feminine desires can be played out in love and humor instead of loveless ways. You should be fearless with your sexual desire.

The masculine should never blame the feminine for anything. He should take total responsibility for being the cause of everything that happens in the relationship. When a man blames a woman, he gives his power away to her and thus rendering himself to be powerless. He becomes one who can be manipulated according to her every whim and fancy. But when he acknowledge his responsibility for the situation, he takes back his power. He should know that the nature of the feminine is to constantly test the masculine even if it seems like subjugating his masculinity. When he fails to enforce his masculinity than is it subjugated. Every test serves to strengthen through attempts of weakening. The very same thing that weakens you can make you stronger.

The feminine thrives on praise. A man could point out a woman's faults to help her become more aware. But if he wants to change her, it would be better to praise those very qualities she seems to be lacking in her. He can praise her for those times when she does display those qualities he desires to see more in her. A man should be unabashed in his expression of appreciation for a woman and praise her freely.

The masculine is pure will. That is why a man desires to be respected and followed. The feminine is pure emotion and pure love. That is why a woman desires to be cherished and loved. Most of a woman's emotional problems stem from being unloved. The solution is to give her love. Assume she is not feeling loved and give it to her. Give her love through the look of your eyes, tone of your voice, physical expressions and actions. Once the emotional part is dealt with then find out what remains to be talked about. The will harnesses the power of emotion towards accomplishing something. When will and emotion come together, it results in creation.

Emotion is personified in a woman. Direction is personified in a man. No matter how much emotion a man has, he desires to experience it with a woman. No matter how much direction a woman has, she desires to experience it with a man.

The priority of the masculine in man and woman is the mission that leads to freedom. The priority of the feminine in man and woman is the flow of love in a relationship. A man's desire is freedom. A woman's desire is love. A man desires the freedom to love. A woman desires to be freely loved. Ultimately, true freedom and true love are the same. However the path by which the masculine and the feminine take to this unity of freedom in love and love in freedom are very different.